I am watching the movie, “Mona Lisa Smile” with Julia Roberts. Based in 1953, a radical thinker from California comes to the west coast to teach art at a conservative women’s college.
I knew that I would like the movie. I knew that the writers wanted to “liberate” the minds of the conservative, or to show it’s liberal audience how silly and primitive conservatives are.
The audience is supposed to shudder at the thought of young women being pruned to become wives and mothers and not even out of college.
I am a Christian. I am not religious. Well, I don’t want to be.
Conform to what other people expect or you can (our mega conservative character steps in and finishes the sentence) be ourselves.
It is my belief that liberal society expects women to work. Work, work, work, make money, have sex, get an abortion if you get pregnant, fulfill your dreams now while you are still young. Rise to the top, who cares who you step on.
I’m not saying that the conservative society is better. I don’t really know what the conservative society would have women do nowadays. I do know that the choices I have made, the choices my husband and I have made for our family are frowned upon by both sides. 6 children. I stay at home. I homeschool. It’s shocking.
We follow what we believe to be the leading of the Holy Spirit. That is the difference between what I do and what a conservative or liberal woman would do. I don’t follow what a certain party does or thinks. I don’t follow what a religious party does or think. My frame of reference is the Bible. My bible is the Bible. The inspired word of God. My God is alive. My God is not stuffed in a book. I have a relationship with Him. I know that He has my best interest in mind.
Conservatives are all about traditions.
Liberals are all about breaking them.
No one has all the answers.
I agree with what the writers are saying, that one must not blindly follow others. But don’t you dare look down your snooty liberal nose at me, when I tell you that I am a wife who loves her husband. I am a wife who stays at home and homeschools her children. And I want to homeschool through high school. I want my children to be the best at whatever it is they choose to do. But I do think that mothers should be mothers full time. I do not think that it’s healthy for a family when a mom works outside the home. The mother should put her husband’s needs and the needs of her children first. There is time for a woman, who chooses to get married and have children, to pursue her other dreams after the children have left home.
Ok. So I finished watching the movie. I liked it. I liked the characters and I liked the way Julia Robert’s character made the girls think. To not accept something just because it’s been this way always.
I did appreciate the interaction between Miss Watson (J.Roberts) and Joan (Julia Stiles) when Miss Watson approached Joan at Joan’s house to give her some law school information in the city where Joan’s boyfriend was going to be residing. Joan let Miss Watson know that she and her boyfriend eloped last night. Miss Watson was clearly disappointed, but quickly regained her composure and said that Joan could have both. Joan told Miss Watson that being married and having a family was what she wanted. Joan reminded Miss Watson that she told the girls to go after what you wanted. Joan told Miss Watson that what she wanted was to be a wife and mother.
The problem with the interaction was that I was made to believe that Joan wasn’t sincere. That Joan was “settling” because that was what was expected of her and was not really what she wanted. Again, the “conservative” lifestyle was made to look like a compromise and not really following your heart.
We are a diverse nation. We all have our own dreams. Just because I am living out my dream of being a stay-at-home mom and a wife doesn’t mean I compromised anything else. Not a balanced movie at all. But, is there really a balanced movie out there? This one just struck a nerve because I felt that the “family structure” was being attacked.